How do you tell your boyfriend or husband that you're a witch? I've heard many stories of wonderful long-term relationships coming to an abrupt end when the unsuspecting partner learns that his apparently ideal mate is a Wiccan or even just interested in the Craft. The fact that there is actually nothing wrong with being a Witch or being interest in any aspect of the occult doesn't seem to matter in the heat of the moment and the trick seems to be in the manner in which the news is broken.
Start by waiting for an opportune moment, when your partner is relaxed and in a talkative mood (i.e. not during an important football match), then lead the conversation slowly into the subject of the occult. Rather than telling him what your interests are, ask your partner what knowledge he has of the occult. Perhaps you could explain that the occult is a very much misunderstood field and that horror movies and cheap novels are largely responsible for the multitude of misconceptions that abound. Ask him what he believes Witchcraft to be and he should then give you a good idea of what he knows about the subject. Depending on his response, try to explain what Witchcraft really is - how it developed, how it was distorted, its reemergence and the way it is practiced today. If he asks how come you know so much about it, just start off by saying that you find the subject very interesting and have read a great deal on it.
The next step is to get your boyfriend to read some of the better books himself. If you mean enough to him, he will be interested enough in your hobbies to read what you suggest. Thereafter you can elaborate on just how interested you are and finally - again at the opportune moment - confide that you are actually a Wiccan. It is more acceptable today to use the word Wiccan rather than Witch and it certainly does help overcome the inbred misconceptions to an extent.
If he clings to the misconceptions after reading and discussing a few books on the subject, ask him why he believes that way. It is actually relatively easy to break down any arguments and show him how illogical they are. However, if he still refuses to accept at least your right to your own beliefs, then you should seriously consider calling off the relationship. It is okay to disagree on minor points, but it is totally unacceptable to have any one person try to impose his beliefs on another or disallow the other the right to their own beliefs.
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Many a clever woman has enjoyed the fruits of long-lasting love by reciting this charm as she stirs rye and pimento into almost every dish. "Rye of earth, pimento of fire, these herbs surely fuel desire. Serve to he whose love I crave and his heart I will enslave!"
About the Author
Caron Bednorze is an independent writer based in York. SHe loves to write about York incalls and often helps local tourist enjoy their time as a York tourist guide.
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